Who Is the Real Jerk?

So I was reading a post on the F-Bomb that was talking about how men and women react to relationships. There's a movie out that's called "He's Just Not That Into You" which shows how men can act like complete jerks when they're not interested in particular women. However, this post on the F-Bomb explains how women are just as guilty as men which I agree with. There are women out here that act like jerks towards nice men but people never really pay attention to it. It's only seen when a man does it which is an unfair stereotype to men. According to this article, there was a line in the post which states "maybe we can just make a couple of movies about her not being into him, and cast Ryan Gosling as the weepy, confused reject instead of Jennifer Connolly." and I find that to be a great idea since it will show the audience how emotional men deal with women through their perspective of things. I can understand why the post is titled "Maybe SHE'S Just Not That Into You" because women can act the same way as men and do the same thing that men do when they're not really interested in someone. As a result, their actions is what labels them as being a jerk.

Comments

[jack badger]

I completely agree Leslie. Woman are the culprit of this just as much as men are. Everyone is likely guilty of this act and it is just a part of relationships. People over look women doing it though, because most stereotypes are that men are always "players" and that they are jerks toward women, but there are obviously women who also have more than one partners and also act like jerks toward them too. This supports that sexism is still very present today in society.

[Julian]

I agree with you it doesn't make sense to confine being a jerk to one gender. People in general can be jerks when it pertains to relationships although being uninterested in someone does not necessarily constitute being a jerk it's how you deal with someone if there is no mutual interest that defines whether you are a jerk or not. I liked your comment about reversing the roles and showing a man's reaction to being rejected I think that it is not widely accepted to for men to have a strong reaction to rejection though it happens all the time.

[Johnny Grimes]

Great post Leslie. i agree with you and the post that it is not correct to just label one gender as the jerks. Maybe it has something to do with the perception that men usually have control in a relationship. Men have the control, so they are jerks in the end and hurt women. But thats not always true, women have control in many relationships. But maybe thats why there is not a "Maybe SHE's Just Not That Into You" yet

[Seth P.]

I agree, there are a lot of stereotypes in relationships about who fills what role. And movies like this just help to add to the stereotypes instead of prevent them.

[Maryann W]

I agree that men kind of have the stereotype of being the "jerk" and i think that Seth is right that movies like this just help to make the stereotype stronger rather than prevent them. So until movies start having a different outlook, like what Johnny said about having "Maybe She's Just Not That Into You", there isn't really going to be a different outlook. In almost every other romance movie i have seen, actually, the guy is always the jerk.